I often hear, "I don't need therapy; I'll just talk to my friends,” or, "I'm not crazy, therapy is for crazy people,” and/or, "The therapist is going to judge me.” For so many of us, asking for help is very difficult and may be viewed as a sign of weakness. In a session, we can address each of these concerns; for those of you already in therapy, if you feel judged or that you’re “crazy,” it’s probably time to look for a new therapist.
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In family counseling, the family itself is a “system,” made up of many different parts, each part being synchronized to the others. Whenever one part of the family system stops working or behaving in sync, stress is the end result; and, as we all know, stress can cause physical, as well as mental illness.
There are many types of reasons you may be considering Individual counseling. Some may include, job change, death and grieving, alcohol or substance abuse, anxiety and/or depression, eating disorders or obsessions with food and/or weight, poor sleep, relationship issues. This is not an exhaustive list. I offer private and confidential in-person as well as virtual counseling sessions for your convenience.
Marriage counseling, oftentimes known as Couples counseling, is probably the single best thing that couples in troubled relationships or marriages can do to heal their relationship and offers them the best chance at successfully overcoming the inevitable hurdles couples encounter.
No marriage/relationship is perfect; each person brings his/her own ideas, values, opinions and personal history into the relationship and often they don't match their partners, which then may cause additional conflict. Additionally, most couples aren't consciously aware of many of their differences, which can further hinder resolution. Having a professional, unbiased, well trained Marital Counselor can be of tremendous benefit to teach the couple problem solving techniques and methods for each person to help resolve the conflict.
Often couples are reluctant to seek Couples counseling for fear of the therapist and the partner “ganging up” on him or her. It is not unusual to hear one or both members of the couple ask how the therapist maintains impartiality, and doesn’t “take sides” with one or the other.
I am a skilled marriage therapist and I offer support and intervention that can help distrusting, disengaged partners to safely address their difficulties.
We believe that everyone has the potential for growth and change, and that therapy can help unlock that potential. We provide a safe and supportive environment where our clients can explore their thoughts and feelings without judgment.
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When my wife and I began marriage counseling, I was not interested in it. As far as I was concerned, it was a pain in the neck, it took time out of my day no matter when we scheduled it, it was just one more unreasonable demand on my time of which I had very little, and, frankly, I didn't really care if our marriage needed it. I wasn't thinking about that.
What I also didn't know, was that I had begun to lay the groundwork for an extramarital affair. What I told myself was meaningless banter, (including the constant flow of text messages and emails, flowers and Victoria Secret lingerie I sent her) was threatening my marriage.
What I also didn't know was that my wife knew, or at least she suspected.
It was during a session with Jennifer, that the reality of what I was doing hit me, right between the eyes. Actually, I guess it was Jennifer who "explained" it to me. She didn't hit me over the head, although, maybe if she'd done that, I'd have seen it earlier. What she did ask me was if I was going to go through another marriage with my eyes closed, and once again not get what I wanted from my life, and marriage. She asked me if I knew I was "allowed" to ask for what I wanted, to negotiate with my wife, my partner, to make suggestions and compromises with my partner.
Maybe it was using the word partner that made it clear to me. I come from the world of business; I understood partner, partnership. Jennifer wondered out loud if instead of trying to fix what I already had, I was looking outside of my marriage to probably, eventually, form another partnership, with another person, and probably do the same things all over again, with a third person.
I can't find the adjectives to adequately describe Jennifer's ability and professionalism. She is astute, knowledgeable and intelligent, while also being compassionate and intuitive with an ability to somehow find the "real problems", and quickly, too.
Hopefully, there won't be, but, if there is ever another reason to seek counseling, I wouldn't hesitate to go back. CS
I came to see Jennifer many years ago because my father had recently died and I knew I needed help.
Jennifer introduced me to The Grieving Process and taught me about the Stages of Grieving.
In her office I found the peace and comfort to slowly and gently go through the painful process of grieving for my father, for the man who was my rock, and who I missed so much I could hardly breathe. I gradually went through feeling guilty for moving from New York to South Beach, and therefore not being able to "be there" entirely while my father was hospitalized and dying, and feeling angry at my mother for her and my father's terrible marriage.
While I was in Jennifer's office I learned that it was OK for me to have chosen my life to be the way I wanted it to be, not do as my parents, especially my father, wanted me to do. I felt somehow that since I'd moved away, my father somehow died. I knew logically that that made no sense, and, finally even got the courage to ask my father that, at Jennifer's suggestion. Of course he said No.
What surprised me was how gentle, kind, understanding, and empathetic Jennifer was. I'd never met anyone like her. I couldn't believe how much better I'd feel after I left her office. In the beginning, I went to see her because my insurance paid for it and my boss told me to. I didn't think it could help me the way it did. After my very first session, I made another appointment for a week, and then after that, I made two appointments a week for the first several weeks. I really needed it; it was after my appointments with her that I could concentrate at work, sleep, just function. Gradually I began to feel better and my appointments became only weekly and then twice a month, and finally monthly, until I decided I could stop.
About a year and a half afterward, I called her and asked her if she would meet my new boyfriend; I just wanted her to meet him. I also wanted her help on moving and my new job. She agreed to all of it. This time I only came to see her 5 times, in 2 months. It was great!!!
I've referred many colleagues and friends to her. It still amazes me how much I was helped. She says it wasn't her; it was the process of therapy. But I really think it was her – (lol).
"Jennifer is truly one of the kindest souls I have ever met. And, one of the most thought provoking. Through my many years of therapy with others, I have never been made to feel like I am listened to, respected and that my feelings matter like I do with Jennifer. Her compassion, her sincerity, her genuine friendship and her ability to make me go places where I never thought safe make her invaluable to me. I look forward to our weekly sessions."
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